If you think my daughter is a gu niang, soft, gentle girl, you’re gonna be disappointed. Sometimes I think this “unfeminine-ness” of her also contributes to her being mistaken as a boy. Just today, we walked into Diva (the accessories shop) and I was looking for some hair bands for her. The sales assistant asked me if my daughter is a girl. A number of times I’ve had to say, “Err she’s a girl,” and awkwardly add that “yes I know she looks like a boy” so that the other party will not feel so awkward. The irony.
It was play-date for the girls again, at my place. We decided to put both of them into the cage, aka playpen. Laura was really thrilled and tickled, and Didi was also happily playing with her. Until about 5 minutes later, we heard Didi say, “no mei mei, no. Go away,” and she tried to push Laura away. Apparently, my daughter adores Didi so much that she decided to make Didi her tree. She does that to both me and Sissie, but I didn’t expect her to be so… affectionate towards Didi. On the other end of the scale, Didi is gu niang, soft and gentle. Even when I tell her to shout, “yay!” it turns out to be a very conservative squeal. So we had to give about 2 time-outs and separate the girls. Didi likes Laura a lot, just that Didi prefers to be nice and gentle, while Laura gets all rough whenever she’s excited.
Despite the differences, they still love playing together. When Didi was told that they were going home, she was upset and started to sulk. And after they left, my daughter started getting cranky. Seesh!






